Posted By: Curtiss  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

I assume those women cited are standing by their man of their own accord and not forced to be there as hinted at by Ms. Saunders. Why does she assume they are being made to stand there. She seems to have a low opinion of these women. That is uncalled for.

Posted By: Glennis  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Watching the news the other night while Spitzer was making his little speech, I thought the sidelong glances Ms Spitzer turned on her husband said it all.  If looks could kill.....

Posted By: Judy Gosnell  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Yes, if looks could kill, a million (or a billion?)men would be dead. I think the poor woman was just in shock, so everyone should quit judging her. HE, not she, is the culprit. Yes, I do wish she would throw out all his clothes and socks on the lawn, but only after she has secured all the money and property. She should get a good attorney. A female attorney.

Posted By: Tommy  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Ms. Saunders, Would you want to amplify on that last sentence.

"Look at today's political marriages among this first wave of widespread American feminism, and you see that in some marriages women are equal to men, but their men will always be dogs" Getting a little arrogant there, aren't we?

Posted By: fencerider rob  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Unfortunately the best ones are males, attorneys that is.

Posted By: Anne Elliott  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

I too think that equating a wife's decision to stand by her errant husband with a failure of her self-respect or with a failure of feminism is making an awful lot of leaps of logic with very few facts.



Couples who genuinely love one another (which means -- as is) don't run at the first sign of trouble -- even when it involves sexual infidelity.  The reasons that Spitzer did what he did (at tremendous personal risk) are likely far more complicated than anyone EXCEPT Spitzer can imagine.



I personally would find it refreshing if media pundits would stop trying to leap to easily digested conclusions, and rather, have the patience, the empathy, and the humanity to recognize the personal and political tragedy that this is, the waste of a talented leader, and hold off with the snap judgments.



Believe me, if the Bush Administration, whose sins weren't sexual, but far worse, and claimed thousandfolds more victims, were held to the same standards Spitzer is now being held to, there wouldn't BE a Bush Admimistration.  What is wrong with us, anyway?

Posted By: Nancy Fenn  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

thank you for saying what intelligent women have been thinking since billy boy and hillary - i am waiting for the day women really grow up amd one of these stepford queens grows  a spine!

Posted By: Kathy F  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

I do wish that everyone would leave Mrs. Spitzer alone.   She did not have a whole lot of time to think about what she should do.  She was, obviously in great shock.    For better or for worse is what would immediately come to mind after 20 years of marriage....you stand by him when he is in trouble.       After a cooling-off period, she can make an intelligent decision that will best work for her and her girls.



None of us who haven't had this type of personal tragedy befall us can honestly say how we would react, so let's stop second-guessing the poor woman.    She will, in time, do what she must.    Who knows, maybe like another politician's wife who stayed, Mrs. S has visions of her own political future in mind?

Posted By: calvin gonterman  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Amen

Posted By: J. Miles  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

'Patience,empathy and humanity' are certainly qualities that should be brought to bear on this dialogue.  As a society, we are fundamentally conflicted over matters involving sexual behavior, and quick to judge, usually hypocritically, another's sexual transgressions.  "Do as I say and not as I do," serves to recognize the humanity in us all, and in most cases would be a fair standard to apply in parsing the judgment of Spitzer the man from that of Spitzer the public figure.  But it seems that Spitzer himself so greatly lacked 'patience, empathy and humanity' in carrying out his duties as a prosecutor, that he has forefeited his right to such treatment in ways that some of those he is compared to have not.  Are we nevertheless to rise above and treat him with compassion?

Posted By: Debillo  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Mrs. Spitzer has a right to be shellshocked and should not be criticized at this point. I am sure that, with time, she will get her emotional and financial ducks in line to the point that she can make a rational, informed decision regarding the future of her marriage and the financial security of herself and her three daughters.



But I know what I would do, having had to do something similar myself many years ago. One episode with a hooker is one thing, but countless occasions and thousands of dollars spent in consort with these "lovely young ladies" is the worst betrayal. To accept it and live within the status quo of her marriage could only be done by an amnesiac. Further, she would be sending a VERY dangerous message to her daughters...that "boys will be boys" and women need to "put up and shut up" or get out. I got out. And I'm not sorry.

Posted By: Kevin C.  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Maybe she should leave him, maybe not, that is her decision and should not be second guessed by anyone not intimately familiar with her situation.  The news coverage of what Spitzer may have done doesn't qualify anyone.



As to the final conclusion of the article "...that in some marriages women are equal to men, but their men will always be dogs."  Not only is it facetious, but it makes the presumption that women don't cheat, and that is laughable.

Posted By: Charles  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Here is the thing and listen to it well. With all the secret terrorist programs and financial transaction tracking YOU TOO can end up in a situation where your every move and action now and throughout your past can be put under a microscope just like this man and for a lot less reason. And you may be subject to someone's personal opinions about you while they are at it. So don't be too fast the step on someone else.

And while we are at it, let's just consider how trivial this is in the eyes of the world compared to destroying an entire country and throwing it into chaos and anarchy through deliberate disinformation and brash dismissal of military experts giving truth to power which was in fact their sworn duty only to be pushed into retirement. Not to mention the Joe Wilson's attacked without mercy. Or for that matter the entire economic disaster wought by clever Wall Street mortgage fund managers. So this man's action are but a spec on the screen so why are you so busy worry about it when a Admiral has just quit over his unwillingness to support bombing Iran!

Posted By: Amy  on Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Politics may be complicated, but engaging a prostitute isn't.  There's no complicated reasons behind his doing so, repeatedly